I'm watching the episode (S12e7) where the family is trying to decide who should go march in favor of polygamy during a legislative session in Utah.
I feel like we don't really see that much of the kids. Maybe that's just me though. It's probably a good thing since the kids never got a say if they were on the show or not.
Anyway, I thought that Dayton had such a a sweet moment. He asked his mom a question and got a blow off answer. However, he didn't accept a blow off answer. He opted to double check and try and provide comfort. It was such a 1sweet and thoughtful and kind moment to catch on tv.
Regardless of how you feel about the parents, just examine this interaction. This is the kind response I'd hope my kids would have when seeing someone in emotional distress. Recognize the distress, ask if they're ok, double check, and try to provide comfort.
It got me to thinking though, if you could provide advice or positive commentary to any of the kids, what would you say? Maybe that person will never see this thread, but maybe they will.
I'll go first.
Dayton, you are such a kind and thoughtful young man. I hope that wherever you go in life that you never lose that. Looking out for others is how we make the world a better place and it seems like you're doing that by caring for those closest to you.
Isabel, you deserve love. You a beautiful person, inside and out. May you learn how to draw healthy boundaries and never feel like you don't deserve them. You. Are. Worthy.
All the kids, please go to therapy. Please find an amazing therapist who specializes in PTSD and childhood trauma. Therapy is incredibly empowering and you can learn so many mental health tools for your tool belt. You deserve respect and love and healthy boundaries. You can't control what your parents did or what was on tv, but I hope you find your way to the best and healthiest versions of your adult selves.